Is it about obedience or is it about love?
We like to think it is about obedience. That is the easy answer but it is just a symptom.
God wants our love. Love leads to obedience. The sequence is important.
“We don’t consciously and deliberately disobey God— we simply don’t listen to Him. God has given His commands to us, but we pay no attention to them— not because of willful disobedience, but because we do not truly love and respect Him.” ~~Oswald Chambers