Others get to decide how I will come to them. It is their actions that determine that. Will I come as disciplinarian? Friend?
My job is to love. That love could come in the form of “tough love”. Everything I do should be in the motivation of love. I discipline my children out of my love for them. If I don’t, I turn them away from God. God is love.
It is other peoples choice how I approach them. May they make the right decision. May I respond in love.
So how should I prepare to come to you? As a severe disciplinarian who makes you toe the mark? Or as a good friend and counselor who wants to share heart-to-heart with you? You decide.