Jesus has a way he wants us to follow to work out our grievances against one another. If I am not willing to follow it, I should keep my mouth shut.
- Jesus wants me to have the courage to go to the person, one on one, try to work it out.
- I have to decide, is this worth an intervention? If it isn’t, I can just forgive and move on.
- Now this is tough, do I want to take it to the whole church?
I don’t think most of us would ever get past step one. Step one is huge though. It forces me to think through do I just forgive and does the person need to know they hurt me.
Having done all that, what should I do? Jesus says start it all over again and focus on God’s forgiving love.
“If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him—work it out between the two of you. If he listens, you’ve made a friend. If he won’t listen, take one or two others along so that the presence of witnesses will keep things honest, and try again. If he still won’t listen, tell the church. If he won’t listen to the church, you’ll have to start over from scratch, confront him with the need for repentance, and offer again God’s forgiving love.”
Source Matthew 18:15-17